How to get him to understand?

"... I can’t take it but I cannot 

get him to understand this. ..." -- 

And you won't. So now what?

Get him to see a therapist because it is not normal. Good luck....

thinks you need a shrink , i know women like you , enjoyed being hit around , its not normal 

Homegrown maltreatment isn't entertaining. We know it's not genuine in light of the fact that no body approves of getting in a real sense slapped ridiculous.

You NEVER need punishing.  He has brainwashed you into thinking that you do.  You are in an abusive relationship. LEAVE NOW!!!!

Pack your belongings and leave. He'll get the message then. BTW - Do you have children? I sincerely hope not.

How to get him to understand? He will understand when you divorce him.

Now I dun seen it all 

If you really believe any of that behavior is okay, you need professional mental health support!  Any man that lifts his hands (no matter the reason) on a woman is a freaking sick puppy.  There are zero excuses.  None.  That's absolute abuse. Even if you try to pass it off as role play or whatever. I seriously hope this is just a troll post because if not, you need to get real girl.  FYI: If you are a man posting this rubbish, you are a piece of garbage!!  Too many women get abused, and the man doing it is usually a coward or comes from an abusive dysfunctional situation himself.  It is in no way a joke of any kind.

Tell him gentleness, kindness, and goodness are fruits of the Holy Spirit.

advise? I can tell you're young by that small grammatical error.. divorce him and report him to the police. Imagine how he would treat your daughters..