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Should my daughter go see her grandmother this Friday.?
I'm a single dad that has custody of my daughter. Her mom is bipolar and she call me a couple times telling me the wants to kill herself . So cps got involved and then eventually we went to court. We when we to court the agreement was that I would get her six nights a week and on Friday's she would spend the night at her grandma house. Two years ago the grandmother told me that was stress out because she was getting divorced and she wanted to stop having the visits. Now two years later she said that she is doing better now . And recently told me that she wants to see 1000th er granddaughter again . I said no. So she got mad and I know have to go back to family court mediation in 2 weeks. A couple of days of ago she asked to take my daughter out on Friday. Should I allow her to see my daughter before i go to I mediation
5 Answers
- Anonymous1 week ago
I would contact an expert on this, not people on here. On one hand she should not go and should be supervised when she does just in case her mother is unsafe to be around. On the other hand you refusing could be what makes your mother commit suicide and you don't want that for her or for your daughter as the suicide of her grandmother would do incredible damage to her. As a result a doctor or crisis counselor can help advise you and you can share what I mentioned here of not wanting to push the mother to suicide by keeping the daughter back.
It might be best for you to go with her and you to stay there with them. For a minute I thought you meant the child's mother but I see it is your mother so all the more reason for you to go with her. My grandmother was an alcoholic and my Dad always went with me when I'd go see her. That was the PERFECT way to handle it. My aunt would drop her kids off alone with the grandmother and I can see that being awkward for the kids and scary when they were little. Meanwhile I have an uncle who barred his kids from ever seeing her again and that was unfair and punishing the kids for Granny's drinking. I guess he thought he was being protective but it did terrible damage to his special-needs son who blamed himself and that uncle's kids all have had far more problems then my aunt's kids or myself (only child).
So don't restrict your daughter but absolutely contact a crisis number on how to handle protecting your mother. Also if the experts agree then consider supervising.
- FoofaLv 71 week ago
This situation would benefit from you being able to see your daughter as a developing human being and her mother (flawed as she is) as an essential part of her life and development. You're so wrapped up in being irritated by these women that you're not even thinking about the child's best interests. A decent parent would have arranged for these supervised visits to continue somewhere else even after Grandma said her house couldn't be that venue anymore. You're not even trying to be a good dad. Someday your daughter's going to resent you for that.
- Anonymous1 week ago
YOU are the only person who knows if subjecting your child to visits with the grandparent is abuse.
- 1 week ago
This is totally up to you. How comfortable do you feel about your daughter seeing her. If you don't like the idea, you have the right to say no. Also, if your daughter is old enough, then you should also be asking her about it. If she really wants to go and feels comfortable about going, then you should let her go.
