maggieeld

Hi, PLEASE ONLY ANSWER IF YOU ARE A MEICAL PROFESSIONAL OR HAVE EXERIENCED THIS, YOURSELF. THANKS IN ADVANCE!

I just got over the wost flu I have ever had save when I was a kid & had Mono...

I'm still getting over it. Almost a week ago my fiance' (who has kissed & eaten/drunk after me when I was getting sick) woke up with severe symptoms. I'm going to describe the symptoms, please let me know what they might be & if you think he needs to go to the ER, our family doctor is not open today since it's the weekend & he's trying to avoid going to see a doctor until Monday:

His Basics:

He's male, 36 years-old, 6' Tall & 243 Pounds/large frame. No allergies/severe diabetes runs in his family.

His Symptoms:

About 5 days ago: He woke up with either a swollen gland or lymph node behind his right ear. A few hours later, the swelling sprea to his right side of his jaw & part of his neck, mainly the jaw. The swollen gland or lymph node AND the swelling of the jaw has gotten alot worse to where he says he has headaches. He is also sleeping alot more than usual. HE SURPRISINGLY HAS NO BODY ACHES, FEVER, SORE THROAT OR COUGH/CONGESTION AS I DID WHEN I WAS SICK. No nausea but he did have indegestion during the 1st few days of the symptoms. This is ONLY on the RIGHT side. The lump, swelling & glands are very warm to the touch. The pain is getting worse.

This may also be superficial, but his left anckle is swollen. He's always talking about how he must have sprained or twisted it...I am always rubbing his feet because I know that since Diabetes runs in his family that circulation is very important. It started to swell again at the onset of the above symptoms. He been getting the shakes too as though he has real low blood sugar from not eating even though he's really overweight. When he eats he feels better but it takes about 30 minutes for the shakes to stop after I feed him. He does not smoke or drink coffee.

**When I was sick, my doctor called-in a Z-Pack for me. (Azrythromycin?) I took the meds as prescribed. I had 1 pill left over. 2 days ago I gave him that pill thinking it would help. He said he felt a little better but then he got worse. I have a whole bottle of (Cipro I think it is and Sulfameth too) that my doctor had also called-in for me in the past which he said to keep on hand, 1 for the flu's I get & another for my chronic UTI's. I was wondering if it were possible for me to give him the Cipro, because maybe that will help since he refuses to go to the doctor. I give him 1 half an Asprin every day or every other day. Advil either causes the shakes (maybe?) an he does not respond to the Advil, he says it oes not help his pain or his headaches. He is very pale & tired. I checked teeth & gums, no pain, no redness, no wisdom teeth, etc. Everything seems fine with the teeth. It's something else. The swelling goes from the swollen gland behind the ear to across the bottom & sie of his right side of his jaw. Sometimes his face looks swollen too.

My daughter is age 16. She's presently in military school & is taking a health class. She's convinced herself that she has Herpes I & II, even the STD Herpes sort, though she isn't sexually active. She has told me that she truly believes that she's contracted every STD they're talking about--every day, it's something new. She told her doctor and me of the extent of the sexual contact that she's had which is basically making out with her boyfriend...of course I am not thrilled with that, either...but she's convinced that she has every STD on the planet even though there's no real cause for alarm. She thinks the spider bite on her hand is a Herpes sore, she thinks that the acne on her face near her mouth is also Herpes. She truly believes that she is carrying STD's. I remember going to college and as a psychology major, I thought I had EVERY symptom in the book and that I was crazy. I do not know how to convince her otherwise. I have shown her the pictures and info. websites for each STD. She is determined to have these germs. It is my opinion that she has manifested her guilt about making-out with the boyfriend in paranoid fears and thoughts. I have already taken her to the doctor & have given her all of the literature, info. & websites. I've talked with her at length & have gone through all of the possibilities of her having caught anything very carefully with her. She is STILL worried!? (She has very little social skills as far as dating and she has only had two "boyfriends" in her life. She is very immature for her age and worries about things alot, in general.)

She has started to obsess about this. She is putting on clothes, changing her mind about what she wears & instead of putting them back in the closet, she throws them in the hamper for fear of germs. She is washing her hands 20 + times, daily. She refuses to let anyone touch her at all, not even to shake hands. She's convinced that she will somehow transmit a germ to them. She does have an unusual fear of getting sick & catching germs. She won't want to be around anyone she thinks might be ill. She truly believes that she can avoid transmission as well as catching any potential germs by over-washing her hands. She has used-up 4 bottles of hand soap within one week! What can I do?

My fiance is cheating. PLEASE DO NOT SEND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. He used his PSP to bypass my keylogger by using the PSP's keypad screen to do the typing, saved the typed letter to the other woman on a notepad document then sent it via email. Then, he deleted the notepad doc & archived the temp files into a WinRAR then deleted it. This way, he totally bypassed my keylogger & was able to commit the crime.

The reason I know this is what he did, is because according to the "program files" section of the ReFog Keylogger that I have, the associated programs were used. The times mesh, etc., etc. BELIEVE ME, I am NOT some overly jealous girlfriend...he's cheating & lies to me so that I will allow him to stay in my house while he gets his faculties together (geta a job, a new girlfriend to take care of him, etc., etc.) The ONLY way that I am going ot get him out of here is if I have LEGIT proof to show. Since he found out about my logger, he's been bypassing the keylogger in this way.

I previousy asked a related question earlier today, to which "Quo" has given me the answer: get snapfiles, I believe it was called, to RESTORE THE DELETED FILES. Unfortunately, the restored files were corrupted or something. When I try to open the docs, they look like they're encrypted or something. It's a bunch of symbols, numbers, some words that relate to computers, etc. They're "DOCUMENTS" & "WINZIPS."

HOW DO I PROPERLY OPEN THESE?

If they have a password, I sure do not know about it because it didn't request one. I get a statement that says that I have to choose from a list of programs to open them...BUT NONE OF THE PROGRAMS SEEM TO WORK!?

HOW do I open them & is there anyone who would guide me through it?

Also, is there any way to "catch" the temp files because he will of course still archive them into a WinRAR then delete them. I asked him why the temp files were archived then deleted. His answer was, "Those are the PSP downloads that I did the other night (he downloaded a temp file archiver program because I looked it up as well as PSP games.) That explained, he's obvioust trying to hide something but I need to be able to show this so that I can get his mother down here to pick him up with a UHaul so I can get on with my own life. I am concerned about my own personal info. too, because he is VERY diabolical. I need to be able to "catch" the temp files or log his activity, even though he is doing it via his PSP connected to my computer.

YOU CAN FEEL FREE TO REVIEW MY PREVIOUS QUESTION FOR MORE DETAIL OF WHAT HE IS DOING.

PLEASE HEP ME RESTORE & OPEN THESE!! This guy is a nut & I need to be bale to get him out. (LONG story, just trust me.) The ONLY way I can do this is to take these measures, unfortunately. If anyone knows how to help with these files, please do let me know.

Thank you in advance. My email address is maggieeld@yahoo.com

My fiance is cheating. PLEASE DO NOT SEND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. He used his PSP to bypass my keylogger by using the PSP's keypad screen to do the typing, saved the typed letter to the other woman on a notepad document then sent it via email. Then, he deleted the notepad doc & archived the temp files into a WinRAR then deleted it. This way, he totally bypassed my keylogger & was able to commit the crime.

The reason I know this is what he did, is because according to the "program files" section of the ReFog Keylogger that I have, the associated programs were used. The times mesh, etc., etc. BELIEVE ME, I am NOT some overly jealous girlfriend...he's cheating & lies to me so that I will allow him to stay in my house while he gets his faculties together (geta a job, a new girlfriend to take care of him, etc., etc.) The ONLY way that I am going ot get him out of here is if I have LEGIT proof to show. Since he found out about my logger, he's been bypassing the keylogger in this way.

I previousy asked a related question earlier today, to which "Quo" has given me the answer: get snapfiles, I believe it was called, to RESTORE THE DELETED FILES. Unfortunately, the restored files were corrupted or something. When I try to open the docs, they look like they're encrypted or something. It's a bunch of symbols, numbers, some words that relate to computers, etc. They're "DOCUMENTS" & "WINZIPS."

HOW DO I PROPERLY OPEN THESE?

If they have a password, I sure do not know about it because it didn't request one. I get a statement that says that I have to choose from a list of programs to open them...BUT NONE OF THE PROGRAMS SEEM TO WORK!?

HOW do I open them & is there anyone who would guide me through it?

Also, is there any way to "catch" the temp files because he will of course still archive them into a WinRAR then delete them. I asked him why the temp files were archived then deleted. His answer was, "Those are the PSP downloads that I did the other night (he downloaded a temp file archiver program because I looked it up as well as PSP games.) That explained, he's obvioust trying to hide something but I need to be able to show this so that I can get his mother down here to pick him up with a UHaul so I can get on with my own life. I am concerned about my own personal info. too, because he is VERY diabolical. I need to be able to "catch" the temp files or log his activity, even though he is doing it via his PSP connected to my computer.

YOU CAN FEEL FREE TO REVIEW MY PREVIOUS QUESTION FOR MORE DETAIL OF WHAT HE IS DOING.

PLEASE HEP ME RESTORE & OPEN THESE!! This guy is a nut & I need to be bale to get him out. (LONG story, just trust me.) The ONLY way I can do this is to take these measures, unfortunately. If anyone knows how to help with these files, please do let me know.

Thank you in advance. My email address is maggieeld@yahoo.com

My fiance is cheating. PLEASE DO NOT SEND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE. He used his PSP to bypass my keylogger by using the PSP's keypad screen to do the typing, saved the typed letter to the other woman on a notepad document then sent it via email. Then, he deleted the notepad doc & archived the temp files into a WinRAR then deleted it. This way, he totally bypassed my keylogger & was able to commit the crime.

The reason I know this is what he did, is because according to the "program files" section of the ReFog Keylogger that I have, the associated programs were used. The times mesh, etc., etc. BELIEVE ME, I am NOT some overly jealous girlfriend...he's cheating & lies to me so that I will allow him to stay in my house while he gets his faculties together (geta a job, a new girlfriend to take care of him, etc., etc.) The ONLY way that I am going ot get him out of here is if I have LEGIT proof to show. Since he found out about my logger, he's been bypassing the keylogger in this way.

I previousy asked a related question earlier today, to which "Quo" has given me the answer: get snapfiles, I believe it was called, to RESTORE THE DELETED FILES. Unfortunately, the restored files were corrupted or something. When I try to open the docs, they look like they're encrypted or something. It's a bunch of symbols, numbers, some words that relate to computers, etc. They're "DOCUMENTS" & "WINZIPS."

HOW DO I PROPERLY OPEN THESE?

If they have a password, I sure do not know about it because it didn't request one. I get a statement that says that I have to choose from a list of programs to open them...BUT NONE OF THE PROGRAMS SEEM TO WORK!?

HOW do I open them & is there anyone who would guide me through it?

Also, is there any way to "catch" the temp files because he will of course still archive them into a WinRAR then delete them. I asked him why the temp files were archived then deleted. His answer was, "Those are the PSP downloads that I did the other night (he downloaded a temp file archiver program because I looked it up as well as PSP games.) That explained, he's obvioust trying to hide something but I need to be able to show this so that I can get his mother down here to pick him up with a UHaul so I can get on with my own life. I am concerned about my own personal info. too, because he is VERY diabolical. I need to be able to "catch" the temp files or log his activity, even though he is doing it via his PSP connected to my computer.

YOU CAN FEEL FREE TO REVIEW MY PREVIOUS QUESTION FOR MORE DETAIL OF WHAT HE IS DOING.

PLEASE HEP ME RESTORE & OPEN THESE!! This guy is a nut & I need to be bale to get him out. (LONG story, just trust me.) The ONLY way I can do this is to take these measures, unfortunately. If anyone knows how to help with these files, please do let me know.

Thank you in advance. My email address is maggieeld@yahoo.com

I think that my fiance is cheating. Please do NOT send me relationship advice. Here's what I believe he's doing & I need help proving it. I've been using a keylogger to give him evidence that I know he's emailing/chatting with other women. I can't get him out until I can prove what he's doing 100%...LONG story. I need to be able to show this to his mother so she will get the UHaul down here & get him out of my house. I do NOT want relationship advice, I need to be able to prove things so I can move on with my life, for my OWN sanity. Either way, here is my question:

HE KNOWS I HAVE A STEALTH KEYLOGGER. LAST NIGHT HE STARTED USING HIS PSP WHICH HE HASN'T USED IN A MONTH. I THINK HE'S GETTING AROUND IT BY USING HIS PSP APPS TO CREATE WRITTEN DIALOGUE ON THE ONENOTE (NOTE PAD) ON MY COMPUTER BY USING HIS PSP TO TYPE INSTEAD OF THE COMPUTER'S KEYBOARD SO MY KEYLOGGER WON'T PICK IT UP. he also downloaded last night, a WinRAR (?) file that is a "TEMP FILE ARCHIVER." That made me think he was using that to catch his temp files from either or both my computer & his PSP, save it to a file then delete it. I think this because of the Keylogger's program history that I saw this morning. There was also a notepad document that had been deleted. It showed the notepad application being opened then deleted.

1. Is it possible to hook up a PSP to your computer, use it's "keyboard" on it's screen to type a note on my computer's notepad, without my Refog Keylogger picking it up?

2. Is it possible for him to have downloaded a temp file archiver as I described & take the temp files from my computer, then send the computer's temp files to his PSP so he can see what I was doing on the computer?

3. I have deleted the temp files on my computer many times, but is there a possability that the computer saves EVERYTHING you do on the computer anyway, and he could use the above action to download that info. & send it to his PSP so he can see it?

4. Will my (I have ReFog) Keylogger pick up this activity (typing emails on notepad via the PSP then sending them through email on the computer) as I have described?

5. I also noticed via looking at my ReFog Keylogger today, that maybe this had happened...but I think this because of the program file history. The keylogger it's self did not pick up any keystrokes. The OneNote "notepad" program had been opened then an hour later, a notepad document had been deleted. Does this sound like I am on the right track so far as what I'm thinking is going on?

6. Will he be able to plug the PSP into my computer & use the "keyboard" on the PSP instead of on the computer, type whatever he wants to & send it in an email via the computer? Use the PSP AND the computer screens together to send emails or create an email address, etc.?

7. Is there a Keylogger which will show me this activity if this is actually what is going on?

8. I know this all sounds diabolical, but I truly have caught him doing similar things & believe this may be what is going on, now. I think he created a new email address that my keylogger did not pick up today by using the "keypad" on the screen on his PSP. Then, he archived the temp files into a winrar file & he deleted it. Does this sound right?

9. Is there any way that I can prove this? I know this sounds more than insane, but he has done similar things before.

* We do NOT have WiFi at the house where the computer is located that he's using. This would have happened by using the PSP to create the notepad document & the PSP would have picked it all up, not the computer, directly.

* WHAT IS A HOTKEY INTERCEPTOR? The aforementioned shows up in the "program activity" log on my keylogger whenever I use the computer to check the keylogger so I thought it was me pushing the hotkeys that bring up the keylogger. This morning before I got up, HE used the computer and this same "hotkey interceptor" showed up in the program files on my Keylogger's program history. What does this mean? Did he archive the temp files & export them to the PSP so he could see what my hotkeys are? I think he also may be going into my keylogger and trying to delete the certain logs that incriminate him. Or, is a hotkeys interceptor a program that comes on automatically when the computer is turned on?

* I also thought that maybe this program "temp file archiver" was also being used on his PSP in case I checked that, too. Possible?

THANKS IN ADVANCE! I JUST AM A TOTAL NOVICE WHEN IT COMES TO COMPUTERS SO I DON'T KNOW THE ANSWERS TO ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS. THIS AN IS VERY DIABOLICAL & HE IS CHEATING ON ME & USING ME. I AM WORRIED FOR MY OWN SANITY, SAFETY & THE SAFETY OF MY BUSINESS, MY OWN MONEY (INCOME) & MY OWN LIFE. I JUST NEED TO BE ABLE TO PROVE IT. I NEED SOMEONE WHO REALLY KNOWS ABOUT COMPUTERS & PSPs

I think that my fiance is cheating. Please do NOT send me relationship advice. Here's what I believe he's doing & I need help proving it. I've been using a keylogger to give him evidence that I know he's emailing/chatting with other women. I can't get him out until I can prove what he's doing 100%...LONG story. I need to be able to show this to his mother so she will get the UHaul down here & get him out of my house. I do NOT want relationship advice, I need to be able to prove things so I can move on with my life, for my OWN sanity. Either way, here is my question:

HE KNOWS I HAVE A STEALTH KEYLOGGER. LAST NIGHT HE STARTED USING HIS PSP WHICH HE HASN'T USED IN A MONTH. I THINK HE'S GETTING AROUND IT BY USING HIS PSP APPS TO CREATE WRITTEN DIALOGUE ON THE ONENOTE (NOTE PAD) ON MY COMPUTER BY USING HIS PSP TO TYPE INSTEAD OF THE COMPUTER'S KEYBOARD SO MY KEYLOGGER WON'T PICK IT UP. he also downloaded last night, a WinRAR (?) file that is a "TEMP FILE ARCHIVER." That made me think he was using that to catch his temp files from either or both my computer & his PSP, save it to a file then delete it. I think this because of the Keylogger's program history that I saw this morning. There was also a notepad document that had been deleted. It showed the notepad application being opened then deleted.

1. Is it possible to hook up a PSP to your computer, use it's "keyboard" on it's screen to type a note on my computer's notepad, without my Refog Keylogger picking it up?

2. Is it possible for him to have downloaded a temp file archiver as I described & take the temp files from my computer, then send the computer's temp files to his PSP so he can see what I was doing on the computer?

3. I have deleted the temp files on my computer many times, but is there a possability that the computer saves EVERYTHING you do on the computer anyway, and he could use the above action to download that info. & send it to his PSP so he can see it?

4. Will my (I have ReFog) Keylogger pick up this activity (typing emails on notepad via the PSP then sending them through email on the computer) as I have described?

5. I also noticed via looking at my ReFog Keylogger today, that maybe this had happened...but I think this because of the program file history. The keylogger it's self did not pick up any keystrokes. The OneNote "notepad" program had been opened then an hour later, a notepad document had been deleted. Does this sound like I am on the right track so far as what I'm thinking is going on?

6. Will he be able to plug the PSP into my computer & use the "keyboard" on the PSP instead of on the computer, type whatever he wants to & send it in an email via the computer? Use the PSP AND the computer screens together to send emails or create an email address, etc.?

7. Is there a Keylogger which will show me this activity if this is actually what is going on?

8. I know this all sounds diabolical, but I truly have caught him doing similar things & believe this may be what is going on, now. I think he created a new email address that my keylogger did not pick up today by using the "keypad" on the screen on his PSP. Then, he archived the temp files into a winrar file & he deleted it. Does this sound right?

9. Is there any way that I can prove this? I know this sounds more than insane, but he has done similar things before.

* We do NOT have WiFi at the house where the computer is located that he's using. This would have happened by using the PSP to create the notepad document & the PSP would have picked it all up, not the computer, directly.

* WHAT IS A HOTKEY INTERCEPTOR? The aforementioned shows up in the "program activity" log on my keylogger whenever I use the computer to check the keylogger so I thought it was me pushing the hotkeys that bring up the keylogger. This morning before I got up, HE used the computer and this same "hotkey interceptor" showed up in the program files on my Keylogger's program history. What does this mean? Did he archive the temp files & export them to the PSP so he could see what my hotkeys are? I think he also may be going into my keylogger and trying to delete the certain logs that incriminate him. Or, is a hotkeys interceptor a program that comes on automatically when the computer is turned on?

* I also thought that maybe this program "temp file archiver" was also being used on his PSP in case I checked that, too. Possible?

THANKS IN ADVANCE! I JUST AM A TOTAL NOVICE WHEN IT COMES TO COMPUTERS SO I DON'T KNOW THE ANSWERS TO ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS. THIS AN IS VERY DIABOLICAL & HE IS CHEATING ON ME & USING ME. I AM WORRIED FOR MY OWN SANITY, SAFETY & THE SAFETY OF MY BUSINESS, MY OWN MONEY (INCOME) & MY OWN LIFE. I JUST NEED TO BE ABLE TO PROVE IT. I NEED SOMEONE WHO REALLY KNOWS ABOUT COMPUTERS & PSPs

My fiance' is cheating. He admitted to me that he has to have a "mental connection" with a woman, sleeps with her for a few months then leaves her for another one. He has admitted that he's had as many as 4 women "to sleep with" at one time during our relationsip. He said he's had women like this in his life the entire time we have been together and also during ALL of his previous relationships.

His credit stinks. He does not get a job because he says that because of garnishments and the over $20K in back child support he owes, the back taxes he owes (he has owed money to taxes for 7 yrs,. of claiming 6 dependents when he has NO dependents so he owes a ton) and his student loans that they would take out too much money. I told him that if he does not get a job, I will kick him out. I own a buisness & I sort of tricked him into thinking that he helps me enough with it but in truth he does nothing.

I am SICK of being treated this way. I even prepared a motion to help reduce the child support he owes but he says he does not want to file it because the state of SC might see that he's that far in arrears & get a warrant for his not paying.

I have paid for everything. He claims that he wants to help me more but he never does. recently, I instaled a keylogger on the computer & found out the truth. He has had a girlfriend other than me for about three months who he met through match.com and another 30+ women who he is talking to who he met through zoosk and datehookup and mingle. He admitted all of this to me & he says he does this because he was raised by some terrible mother. I do not understand the excuses. He used to lie like hell about his cheating but since I caught him, and I have the proof, he admitted it and he apologized and promised never to do it again but I caught him again!

WHY am I still with this loser? WHY do I think I am willing to believe his lies and work this out? He said he cannot help himself. He speaks very openly and honestly--we have amazing communication. He wears his heart on his sleeve. But he is not stopping this crap! I feel like taking all the things I paid for back--his motorcycles, his musicalequipment, his instruments, his clothing that is more than mine, everything. he has an excuse for everything. last night, I looked at the keylogger and it showed 7 chats with different women. He told two of them he lived with an ex and that I was cool with him dating others. WHAT THE HELL!?

What do I do??

I used to work with the Sheriff's Dept. & police dept. locally in my home town & in two other counties so I ended up making alot of friends who are in law enforcement. I was talking with a friend of mine recently who is a detective in the Targeted Crimes Unit which is their term for "vice cop." I have known this person for years, we went to the same law school but he decided to take a job as a detective after working as a police officer. During a recent conversation, I was talking about someone with whom I do not get along. His words to me were, "Hey, I can get her pulled over. We'll find drugs in her car...mabe on her person. I can take care of her for you." This scared me. Do you think that this was a normal thing for him to say? Do detectives really do things like that to people? I believe that it's an abuse of power. He told me that he'd done it before to someone, planted drugs on them somehow and then set him up. How can he think he can get away with something like that when with an I.A., they'd be found-out? What, do they al sit around and say, "Hey, don't tell on me. let's get this person busted for something just because I do not like them." I do not feel that it is my place to report him for what he said. What's up with that whole "crooked cop" thing and why?

I found a pill. I went on sites to look but can't find anything about it. It's VERY small, round, scored in the middle. it is the palest shade of blue. It has either an "A" or an "R" above the score mark (I can't tell which because of the font) and under the score mark is the number "215."

Can anyone tell me please what this is?

PHARMISTS, DOCTORS, NURSES, MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS OR THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN PRESCRIBED THIS PILL ANSWER ONLY, PLEASE! Thank you in advance!

My husband is in arrears in child support, $8,500.00. I want to get a loan so that I can pay off this debt and he can catch-up. If you want an explaination of the situation, read below. Otherwise, here are my criteria: We do not own a home, we rent. I have a home-based business so income is harder to document for me than others. I own a car, it is only worth about $1,000.00. it's a 1996 Mercedes E320. I also have a 2000 Honda Passport however it doesnt run. Both are paid-off. I think the Passport is worth about $500 in cash. BOTH my husband and I have terrible credit & debt (see below as to why) and I need to get a loan (I can afford $250-300/mo. payments on a loan.) So, with these details, are there any lenders who will loan that amount? SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY, PLEASE!!

OUR BORING STORY:

Here's what happened: My husband was a kid when he divorced, he did not hve an atty. & he signed away his life because he knew no better & never knew until now that he could modify the child support amount, etc. When divorced, "reasonable visitation" was ordered (7 yrs. ago) but his ex will not allow him to talk with or see the children. She is actually in contempt but that's another story. The ex wife had my husband paying 30% MORE child support than guidelines require. He should have been paying $229 - $280 based on his income. he earns $1,800/mo. His ex earns $80K + a year. She tricked him into paying $540/mo. in support then didn't allow him to see the kids. That said, he paid that crazy amount of support until he became unemployed in 2008 and he was NEVER behind until now. When he became unemployed, he could only afford to send $200 - 300/mo. instead of the $540. He would call the county & the state and he was always told, "Don't worry, just send what you can on a consistant basis," which HE DID, SO HE THOUGHT HE WAS DOING THE RIGHT THING! All of a sudden he received a contempt letter. Of course he knew he was behind, but he thought that since he spoke with both the county & the sate of SC, that he was okay and that he would not be thrown in jail because he WAS still consistantly sending at least half of what was due. He filed for a modification 2 times over the last year once I realized what was going on after I looked at his divorce papers. he had moved in with me, because he could not afford to live anywhere that didn't have RATS and BUGS and sometimes could not buy fod because of this high support. I am NOT kidding!! I saw where he lived. So, since he was sending away 1/3 of his GROSS income, after taxes, and after his student loan payments, he was left with about $20 a month for food. Living in the rats... So after I saw this, I helped him file for the reduction after I saw his papers when he becme unemployed. NO HEARING DATE WAS EVER SET! WHY? BECAUSE HIS EX-WIFE'S BEST FRIEND IS THE CLERK OF COURT IN THE COUNTY IN WHICH THAT CASE IS A POINT OF INTEREST. NICE, HUH? So, he applied for Legal Aid but we live in FL and that case is in SC so no help, there. he has to handle it all himself because attorneys all want $5K upfront. IF WE HAD $5K, THEN HE WOULD NOT BE IN ARREARS AS HE PRESENTLY IS! (DUH...) So, that is why he is in arrears; he did not know that anything could be modified and he was paying what he thought he was supposed to be, as told by the State. On a consistant basis. Now, to keep him from being sent to jail, because if he goes to jail then he will not be able to run the business with me and therefore it will go under, we need a loan to be able to pay off the arrears. See, he's NOT the deadbeat dd, he is the type of dad who wanted to see his kids, crying on their birthdays and all holidays because he could not speak with them because of a vicious ex-wife...having his Christmas toys mailed back "return to sender..." and, the fact that he has been consistantly paying and WANTS to work to continue to pay--but we have to avoid jail, now. To avoid this, I have to come up with the entire arrears amount immediately.

((I can't believe they treat fathers this way: he paid every penny of that ordered $540 for 6 years until becomming uneployed, then he reported his unemployment & ws then told to "just keep on paying what you can, consistantly." he did... Now theyre trying to throw him in jail!?

Is there a site (not informational, I need CORRECT SC LEGAL FORMS) so that I can download a MOTION FOR MODIFICATION OF CHILD SUPPORT FOR THE STATE OF SOUTH CAROLINA?

I also need the form to enforce visitation or to modify visitation (to establish a proper visitation schedule, as the mother of the children in question have not allowed the father to see or speak with them in over 7 years, "reasonable visitation" was ordered in their divorce.)

* Attorneys or legal professionals answer only, please!

Thank you in advance.

* And before I get 150 single mothers accusing me of being a deadbeat father, I am NOT, I am a mother, myself & am trying to help someone else reduce their support, pro se, based on their income & change of circumstances.

Someone gave me some quail. I have males & females, the correct ratio. The females started laying eggs. I know the first few can be "duds," but I incubated them, anyway. At 25 days a few eggs don't have warmth coming from them & they don't weigh anything compared to the others. I've been candling them but they all look the same...just a dark area on one side. I do turn them accordingly. The first egg that was laid, it didn't weigh anything & no warmth coming from it. I cracked it & just as I'd imagined, it ws infertile. Just a yellow yolk. There are a few that I am afraid to crack "just in case," so I'm leaving them alone. The rest are gaining weight, they have their own warmth coming from them. One of the ones I suspect to be "duds" is turning over by it's self! it doesn't weigh anything, it's cool to the touch & it's 25 days old. But it won't stay still when I turn it, it always flips back to it's original position. Is there a stubborn baby in there that's just smaller than the rest?

My 2nd question: I can hear a tiny "cheap" noise (unless I'm crazy) coming from those eggs & also an occasional "peck" sound. Is that them making noise? because when I hold the candle to it as described, I can't see a thing. It's just a dark mass on one side. I always turn the eggs properly, but I am wonder when they are going to hatch? I'm using the right humidity & temperature, but is there anything or any tips from anyone of hatching these quail? They are Courtinix, one Button. Thanks.

((Please forgive the misspellings, as my keyboard is broken; letters missing from some words.))

My fiance received a Show cause for contempt for child support. (See previous question.) In short, his ex had the advantage of an atty., he didn't. He was ordered to pay about 25% more child support than he should have been, he has been consistant but has not been able to send full amount and thus received a Show Cause for $8,500 in arrears (pmt. is $540/mo.) I just found out that FOR THE PST 5 YEARS (ever since the divorce, he oly saw them 4 times in the 1st 2 months then never again) his ex REFUSED to allow him contact via phone or the reasonable visitation which was ordered. At the time of the divorce, one son was age 2 & the other, age 3. That said, he missed ALL of his 2nd son's "firsts." She REFUSED to allow them to speak with him even though he would call to speak with them. he said he could her them asking if it was Daddy and she would say terrible things about him infront of them while yelling at him over the phone and refuse to allow the kids to speak with them. I know that they are both in contempt, but does my fiance have any recourse? In FL, I've seen cases in which one parent refused visitation or contact and the non-residential parent received partial or full custody. He wants to see his children. He just mentioned this, he said that he actually had not been able to speak with them at all. She refused to give him any info. about them, he had to call the schools and doctors to get their copies or report cards every year, etc. Then about 2 years into the divorce, she stopped answering the phone all together and no messages were ever returned. SO, HE HAS NOT BEEN ALLOWED BY HIS EX TO TALK WITH HIS SONS SINCE AGE 2 & 3, THIS WAS 5 YEARS AGO. He only got to drive up once every 2 weeks to pick them up for a day, on 4 (four) occasions. No contact allowed, thereafter. WHAT ARE THE CHANCES THAT THE JUDGE WILL ALLOW HIM SHARED OR SOLE PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY & RESIDENTIAL RESPONSIBILITY?

Also: I realize that the Show Cause for Contempt is a seperte issue. He is able to show his efforts in contacting both the state and the county, trying to contct and discuss this with his ex to no vail and his sending in the request for modifications, for which NO date was ever set for a hearing. He thinks this happened becuse his ex is friends with the Clerk of Court; he tried EVERYHTING to get this adjsted, modified and resolved. This is his first contempt, happened after becomming unemployed (he did report the unemployment) this is his 2nd time being in arrears, but before, it was about 4 yers ago and it was only by 2 payments because he had changed jobs and had to wait on his first check and he got 100% caught up that time within a few pmts. to current. However, since the unemployment, he is now back in arrears the amount mentioned, above.

ALSO: I need the name of a very good yet inexpensive (is this possible!?) family law atty. whom is licensed in SC. Thanks in advnce!

I have a question. I know a woman whom is not married but has a deadbeat boyfriend, they have 2 kids together. She didn't claim her income all year long; she "worked under the table." She told me she earned $68K under the table. She claimed she had NO income to welfare so she gets almost $700 in foodstamps & also receives free medicaid to boot!!? She doesn't pay her quarterly taxes, either; she doesn't even claim that job she has! She's having a friend write a letter saying she earned a certain amount so she can file taxes & get 2 earned income credit checks. She never worked for this person, she plans to co-conspire with them: She will say she was paid $ all year from babysitting in order to get 2 earned income checks. The friend who authors the letter will be able to take the child care credit PLUS take that amount off her taxes, too! THIS IN MY OPINION IS STRAIGHT OUT FRAUD! I PAY MY TAXES and I'm confused how she thinks she can get away with this. I'm also angry because she is defrauding the welfare system AND the IRS. Is it possible she will get away with this? IS THIS POSSIBLE? AND IF IT IS, HOW DO I STOP THE FRAUD? It isn't my personal business, however I think she needs to be stopped. It's as phony as claiming pets or something silly like that!? What can be done about this?

I have a female (I think) quail, about 5 mo. old. She has never laid an egg. She usually comes out & plays an hr. ea. day. I think she's a Bobwhite/button mix, not sure. She's brown w/ white speckles but looks nothing like any other quail. She lives in a pen with 3 others. She's about 6 1/2" long & looks "adult." (We just adopted these as pets, bought the necessary food & accessories, pens, etc.) Per the seller, she's eating starter scratch. The other quail are thriving. Today, this 1 has watery eyes (a bit), isn't happy. Wet feathers underside, isn't eating much, standing alone, sleeping. I took her out, am keeping her warm, covered. Usually she's running around & playing, today she is lethargic & sleeping, can't open eyes all the way, breathing fine but has been pecked on the shoulder/neck by another, some feathers are gone in that spot. I put Neosporin on the injury. There are NO vets avail. today. Looked online, can't find a site to help. I need to know everything possible that might help her. Also, any quail care advice appreciated!

We have been dating 3 years, he relocated 200 miles south to have a life with my teen daughter and me. We HAD the most amazing connection, he was 100% open with me. now, withdrawn, distant. Bike engagement last night. Said I've become too controlling, agenda-driven and keep tabs on him. (I don't want a "pet human") but I want respect & help with our biz & for him to not flirt with others. Recently he came home with business card from a bar from another woman.

is there anything i can do to save this? I agree with everything he says, what can I do? we lost the deep communication we once had; broke up with me last night.

I have been dating a man (both 35) for 3 years, engaged for 8 mos. He relocated for me. To spend life together. Living together 1.5 years. We are PERFECT, the male/female version of each other; exact matches. Used to communicate on no level as any other I've seen. He broke up with me last night. Said I am too jealous, insecure & need him around 24/7. We own business together, so we work together, live together, The biz = we're at the whim of others, so we have to be "available" 24/7 at moment's notice. He quit a job he wasn't happy with to start this biz w/ me, we make amazing $$! All in his name due to my poor credit. Says he will help me for a year to come, but "this" isn't what he signed-up for. Meaning, I am agenda-driven & controlling. (Because of the biz.) I DO EVERYTHING-CHILD, HOUSEKEEPING, WORK, RUN BIZ; HE DOESN'T DO MUCH EXCEPT SUPPORT MY ENDEAVOUR. 2 YRS. AGO, HE WAS OVERWHELMED WITH STRESS OF NEW BIZ + MY OWN STRESS W/ NEW BIZ & HE CALLED HIS EX. We've always had amazing communication, never thought he'd do that to me. (Cheat before & breakup now.) I've had severe trust issues since the cheating. IMPORTANT: I'm on meds that actually effect my personality negatively; I'm overbearing, stressed, etc. Up his butt 24/7. He says my simply telling him what we both need to do on any given day = NAGGING. All I'm trying to do is make sure all gets done on time. He doesn't do really anything. He said before, there was tough times but he was here for my child & me. Cried while saying this to me 2 years-ago. He does have issues of abandonment. Now, he says he wants to be single with no responsibility; no one "keeping tabs on him." A few mos. ago, I noticed he was flirting with women in my presence. Today he has a band practice and I needed it to happen at our place because of business requirements (long story.) He said, "No, I'll do what I want. He doesn't want anything to do with biz, anymore. Doesn't want stress/have to babysit employees. Nor, does he want anything to do with me. No sex in a mo.; before that, 1 time last mo. 3 weeks ago, had 2 long (wonderful) talks regarding my meds & the negative way they effect me. I used to be relaxed, free-spirited, calm. Now I'm VERY high-strung, OVERLY STRESSED. He said I lock myself in the home office 12 hrs. a day (I have to; another long story) & when he wants me 2 spend time, I'm too busy. When I'm free & avail., he pinches & tickels but it hurts sometimes. ((In my opinion, I do EVERYTHING, BUT DON'T TELL HIM. I MAKE HIM FEEL IMPORTANT.)) But he says my daughter whom is stressful & testing limits is too much, as is the time I have to out in for work. WE USED TO HAVE AMAZING COMMUNICATION; BE BEST FRIENDS, DID THINGS SPONTANEOUSLY. His estranged dad just passed, he's depressed and feels he wants do do something more productive w/ his life. Plus I am driving him crazy asking for him to take care of responsibilities. Friends used to say, "He is into you, totally in love." He's SO distant now & last night broke engagement. We lost, somewhere in the stress of reality, the serious bond & communication. I want to STOP this break-up. Any help would be appreciated!

My fiance's estranged father just passed away a month ago, no one let us know. His father had left a very large inheritance, many family members involved. My fiance's sister & his ex-wife (mother of his 2 children) are vulchers. Every relative he tries to contact (they all had his contact info.) says nothing but "there was an attempt to contact you," and that's it. My fiance thinks his ex-wife and sister are possibly trying to attach his inheritance. It has been over one month since his father's death.

He owes his ex-wife money. His sister is a vulcher. Is this possible for them to attach any of his inheritance? Upon calling his father's attorney (and business partner) in tears to find out why no one called upon his father's death, he was told the atty. was out of the office, however there had been an attempt to contact him upon the death of his dad. He expects a return call next week. In the mean time, NO one will talk to him, suddenly and he is being avoided. He wonders if someone is trying to do something to the inheritance. He can't see why no one called him when his father was dying. Can that happen? How long is probate? Can others attach anything his dad may have left him? He is scared and sad, he can't understand what is going on.

I'm thinking about buying a 1982 Honda Silverwing GL500 or a 1984 Silverwing GL650. The GL650 has everything & 27,000 miles, fully dressed. Carbs are not sinking up, some backfire when I pull off the throtle. Idles right @ 1100-1200 RPM. Smells rich. Think there may be needed $$$ work (?) This Seller has owned it for 6 mos. & has done work, repainted, etc., but still these issues. Sat 3 mos. with HIM. Before that, owned by another guy & it sat for God only knows... He's asking $1,200. Sort of looks like to me (because of paint job & under rust) that he had bought what used to be a parts bike from someone whom started fixing it up & he did more but didn't want to get in over his head & is now selling...just my opinion. This is for my boyfriend...

The GL500 is owned by different guy, has 8,400 miles. This owner has redone EVERYTHING & it runs like a top-perfect! It doesn't have the full dress like the other but does have clear ferring & boards. He's asking $1,500 FIRM.

My question is: Considering these 2 bikes, the GL500 seems "safest bet" for reliability. But I like the ammenities on the other bike very much... Does the GL650 sound like it will require ALOT of work? I figure I either spend for the GL500, $1500 + a few hundred to dress it up OR I spend $1200 on the GL650 & put several hundred in repairing whatever the heck this is wrong with it... Any thoughts? What would you do? Does the 650 sound like it needs a major repair?

PS: To the people who THINK they're mechanics, I am NOT talking about the Silverwing scooter, I am talking about the Silverwing MOTORCYCLE from way back.