He pulls my hair and chokes me in front of his friends...?

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I’ve recently started seeing this guy, we were drinking with his friend and he’s dominant (quite new to it) and him and his friend would gang up on me and insult me as a joke which is fine, although towards the end of the night it got a bit much! Anyway, every time I insulted him back, he would pull my head back by my hair and ask me to repeat what I said, or he’d choke me right in front of his friend.... does anyone know why he did this? This was meant to be a private thing, not on display for his friend to see. It’s disrespectful right?

T J · Answer

Do you have any brains?  Get him out of your life, you can even have him arrested for doing that crap to you....get away from him, before it becomes even more. Respect yourself.

Coach Simon · Answer

Is this the same guy who used to touch you inappropriately in front of his friends?

Janet is right; this is not a healthy relationship and if you don't leave him straight away he will see that as a signal to abuse you even more seriously.

Good Luck!

Janet · Answer

STOP seeing this guy.  Immediately.
He is not a caring guy and you will end up fleeing to a battered women's shelter in fear for your life.
Stop seeing him now.

He does this because he is emotionally ill and is a wife-beater and it doesn't bother him one bit.  He might even be a sociopathic sadist who ENJOYS hurting others.
One thing is clear .. he is NOT relationship material.'

It is far more than "disrespectful".  It is DANGEROUS ... if not now, then it WILL become life-threateningly dangerous.
You have connected with a real sicko.

He pulls my hair and chokes me in front of his friends...?

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