If you didn't learn respect as as a child, what is the best way to learn respect as an adult?

I think respect is gained on one end and a component of empathy on the other. It's your choice if you will respect others, or elders, regardless of the things you listed. I was NOT respected as a child, yet I have learned about forgiveness (Thanks to God) and I choose to respect others until they prove otherwise. You can at least treat people with respect (considerate actions) even if you don't respect them, as in hold them in high esteem.

Being an elder doesn't automatically mean they are wise and good. We should respect people who are good, kind and who respect others be they younger or older than us. There is such a thing as karma.

THIS IS A TUFF ? BECAUSE I LEARNED RESPECT AS A CHILD AND HAVE RESPECT FOR MY ELDERS...AND AM IN THE PROCESS OF TEACHING RESPECT TO MY 2 GREAT NEPHEWS WHO HAVE NOT BEEN RESPECTIVE TO THEIR MOTHER...YOU MAY GO TO THE LIBRARY AND SEEK OUT SOME SELF HELP BOOKS ON CHANGING YOUR WAYS OF THINKING,AND MAYBE YOUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS OLDER PEOPLE IN GENERAL....

I have honored my parents all my life and they were very respectful to me as a child. I would do what Jesus would do "Treat other the way you want them to treat you".

this is all about you. ask yourself how you would like to be treated

or how you wouldn't. you have to give it to get it. its that simple.

its not a course to take,its an action only you can perform. you

smile, they smile. you frown,they will probably frown....you speak

in a friendly tone etc.etc.

Just treat others as you would wish to be treated.

therapy, lots of therapy.