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My boyfriend started an art website showcasing a few of his artworks. I asked him a while back if anyone has bought anything from it and he said no. Probably because he hasn’t reached a wide audience. Anyways, I would like to be his first website customer but I want it to be a surprise. He always says he is going to just give me the art for free since I’m his girlfriend but I want him to feel special and excited for his first buyer. I started the process of ordering but it asks for payment information. I already input a brand new email (not using my real name) and my fathers phone number (boyfriend doesn’t know it). Now it says the payment information is secure but does that mean it’s only going to hide my card number but not the cardholder name? How can I get away with this? 

Me and my boyfriend got into an argument yesterday and I brought up how he has physically hurt me. He got angry and said “I’m not an abuser, I never hurt you. Did I punch you? Kick you?” I told him that it is still abuse if it is hurting me and leaving me bruised up. One time during an argument, he knocked over my stuff and started to storm off but I grabbed his arm and he shoved me so hard I fell back onto the floor and when I got up he grabbed my arm so hard and threw me on the floor. The next day my entire right arm was bruised up and down. I had to tell coworkers and family that I must’ve hit it on something but I knew it was him. Previously he has left bruises on my arms from grabbing and throwing me so hard but not as noticeable. His mother knows because I have told her and she defended him saying “you shouldn’t have tried touching him when he is angry. You should just let him leave and you wouldn’t get hurt” she excuses his angry and physical reactions. But i still find myself wondering if maybe I am wrong. Maybe it is my fault those times for making him angry and its my fault for getting too close.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now and have gone through a lot In that time together. Lately we have been arguing a lot because my mental health has not been okay. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety and have noticed he is great at calming me down so he has promised to always be there for me. But I feel like he isn’t living up to his promises and taking care of me the way I need. As much as I want to ve strong and independent who doesn’t need a man, this man brings me a lot of comfort that I haven’t been able to find in anyone else. But he has lately been saying he is bothered by my needs, calling it an inconvenience, and going as far as saying he wants me happy but doesn’t think it’s worth the trouble. He always apologizes after I point out how much of an asshole is. But it keeps occurring  so I’m confused as to what to believe. One of my guy friends lately has been extremely comforting through text and with all the arguing I have even had little daydreams of becoming more. Im so confused and I just know that I love my boyfriend but he makes me question his love and my worth to him. I love my boyfriend but I wish he were different. I love the guy but I wish he was more like the guy friend. I don’t know what to do. I always talk it out and we come to a bunch of promises from his end but no real change. I guess I don’t really know when to give up. Should I? 

Wednesday the 27th I bled once and had brown goo the rest of the day. I was supposed to start my period that Friday but never did. Fast forward Wednesday the 3rd I take a pregnancy test and it says I’m pregnant. My thought is that I had implantation bleeding the 27th. I take another pregnancy test the 5th, positive again. All day today I’ve had horrible cramps and I’m scared. I don’t have good health insurance so seeing a doctor is hard. 

Wednesday I woke up to pee and had a lot of blood come out. I put on a pad thinking my period started early (supposed to start Monday). The rest of the day and for about two days after, I only let out a brown discharge. I have been having light cramps since. I’m not sure what this is since I’ve never had it happened before. I’ve asked on other sites and few have said it could be implantation bleeding. Pregnancy is a possibility since I’m sexually active and not using any protection other than the pull out method (been effective for over a year now haha).

I had my last period May 5th to May 10th. I was predicted to start my period on May 31st. On May 27th I woke up to pee and when I looked in the toilet, there was a lot of blood. I figured my period started early and put on a pad the rest of the day. Throughout the day I did not bleed, just had brown discharge. It is now the end of the 29th and still just brown discharge, no blood. Upon research online, people say it could be an early miscarriage. Me and my boyfriend don’t always use protection so theres always a chance of pregnancy. Has anyone had this happen before? I would go to my gynecologist but she is not seeing patients until June 15th. I’m just not sure what to make of this since I’ve never had this happen before. I find it strange and worrisome. 

My father recently quit his job as a cook because he got injured at the restaurant and they did not offer workers como there. 

He does not have a degree but has small businesses in yard work and house painting. He has a bad right leg and is quite old but he’s a hard worker. He doesn’t want to quit working but also does not want to return as a cook. Any ideas or recommendations?

My boyfriend went to the hospital in an ambulance two years ago and never paid his hospital bill+ambulance. It got sent to collections and it has been sitting there on his report. He tried applying for credit care for an emergency vet visit the other day but didn’t qualify for that reason. It inspired me to help him move past this debt. He isn’t the most financially responsible. He currently lives with his parents so he is fortunate to not have high monthly bills currently. He doesn’t have any credit cards currently registered. I’m just wondering what the first thing to do is. How do we begin payment, is there a way to reduce the total, receive financial aid, any way to dispute any costs, and what are the effects once he is finished paying? It is over 3k in debt to give you an idea. In his defense he was 19 and had no knowledge of collection agencies and admitted to being ignorant about it all. 

I dated this ex for over a year, two years ago. We adopted a dog from the shelter while dating. He lived with me until my Dad got tired of his shedding and made me give him to the ex. I used to see the dog a lot while we were still dating but that changed obviously when we broke up. I got to see him every two weeks, then it became every month, and then it became whenever I asked to see him and we looked at our schedules. At some point he got a new girlfriend and he actually blocked me because his new girlfriend felt insecure about me. I didn’t find out until I tried asking to see the dog. It wasn’t until they stopped dating that he told me what happened. Now, I ask to see the dog and we try to work around our schedules but he takes hours/days to reply. He posts and uses social media but never replies so sometimes I have to text him again to confirm/ask. At this point I’m fed up with his lack of communication and respect. I payed for the adoption fee and have loved the dog since day one and never wanted to get rid of him. I thought it’d be fair to at least get to see him once a while but it’s become such a hassle because of my ex. How should I approach the ex about how I’m feeling? Should I even do anything? 

I dated this ex for over a year, two years ago. We adopted a dog from the shelter while dating. He lived with me until my Dad got tired of his shedding and made me give him to the ex. I used to see the dog  a lot while we were still dating but that changed obviously when we broke up. I got to see him every two weeks, then it became every month, and then it became whenever I asked to see him and we looked at our schedules. At some point he got a new girlfriend and he actually blocked me because his new girlfriend felt insecure about me. I didn’t find out until I tried asking to see the dog. It wasn’t until they stopped dating that he told me what happened. Now, I ask to see the dog and we try to work around our schedules but he takes hours/days to reply. He posts and uses social media but never replies so sometimes I have to text him again to confirm/ask. At this point I’m fed up with his lack of communication and respect. I payed for the adoption fee and have loved the dog since day one and never wanted to get rid of him. I thought it’d be fair to at least get to see him once a while but it’s become such a hassle because of my ex. How should I approach the ex about how I’m feeling? Should I even do anything? 

I had a part time job at an after school program that got closed down due to covid 19 for the rest of the semester. Later on my full time job at the daycare told me that I have a reduction in hours. Both jobs told me to file for unemployment since I’m not getting paid/returning to work until further notice. When the application asks for my last job, which one do I put? Or am I allowed to put both jobs?